The moon is not the self image. The sun and AC are the self image. Anyway, I have this and it's not at all how I am. I definitely don't make relationship decisions without considering non emotional factors. I always listen to the warning bells. I'm so not needy and don't like constant attention.
Water people go by feelings only in relationships and can be needy and need constant attention, especially water moons and Venus.
We like peace and beauty in out relationships. Venus softens the moon so that it doesn't like harshness. Harshness is a major turnoff, so is crudeness.
Rhianna has mars conjunct saturn and uranus. Very tight. Mars saturn and uranus in hard aspect indicates abuse.
Her moon Venus is in Aries so she's going to be way more into volatile stuff, but the abusive relationship is her mars saturn/uranus.
Katy perry doesn't have moon Venus at all. She has Venus conjunct uranus.
Moon Venus do not like aggressive partners at all. Venus softens moon making us hate that sort of thing. We like softness, emotionally.
Aggressive partners is mars, ura, Pluto saturn in aspect to mars, or sun or Venus, possibly moon, but more sun or mars, who is the male in a woman's chart.
Any woman tuned on by the bad boy will have hard aspects by the Malefics to sun or mars.